Having dementia in your family is an awful thing to happen, and there is no denying that a lot of the time its hard to see that light at the end of the tunnel.
I recently came across someone who held onto that light so tightly he managed to even find something that he wanted to call, a positive of dementia. Now to some of you I can understand this seems ludicrous and to us here at Nudgu who are also carers it’s a little far fetched. However Arno Geiger has written a book in order to talk more about is father’s dementia and how it has affected his family.
The book (“The Old King In His Exile”), which is written in a way, that resembles ‘a writer’s notebook, with passages of narrative interspersed and snatches of dialogue’. In this book Arno talks about ‘the delights of dementia’ where he goes on to say that through his father’s illness it managed to make him develop a new and unique way with words, which he found fascinating. In different scenarios he now says the most weird and wonderful phrases like, ‘It’s the Swiss, shooting at us again’ when unwelcome carers come or when he moves into a care home, he describes the patients as ‘Poor fellows, whose willpower shouldn’t be measured by their results’ and of his cup and saucer, he asks: ‘Are they related?
Arno found such pleasure in listening to the way his farther ties together these words but understands that however glorious he may find them, it is a result of his on going battle with dementia. That is why Arno’s book ‘The Old King In His Exile’ is also a book to help those going through dementia, offering advice and guidance. But I do find it truly remarkable the way he managed to turn something others would categories as a side effect of dementia, into something so cherished.
Its hard to stay positive in a time like this but for anyone who manages to get up each day when life feels at its worse, you should be proud of how strong you are as you may be the inspirational light for someone else.