The pressure that comes with exams these days is somewhat overwhelming and can really impact your child’s confidence. These past few weeks would be tough for any child sitting exams and with the stress looming over them on whether they will pass, fail or get into university, it’s no wonder they feel pressure.
However it seems that this stress can also branch out to the parents of these children. It’s said that nearly a quarter (24%) of British parents polled for 5 live said the pressure of their children’s exams had affected their own mental health. Many parents say they lost sleep worrying about their children’s exams, or felt like they couldn’t offer enough help to their child with revision.
This combined stress is incredibly common but it’s important to separate your own stress and fears from your childs. However there are particular reasons you might feel stressed, but hopefully Nudgu can help with this.
Lack of Revision
If you are feeling worried about the lack of revision your child is doing for their exams, it’s important you talk to them as to why this is. Maybe they feel unmotivated at home or they are really struggling to understand the subject and need some extra help. Either way, the best thing to do in this situation is urge your child to attend afterschool revision sessions, as this is a more personal and intense revision time than a typical lesson.
Unable to help
If you are feeling worried and guilty about how you can’t help your child with their work… don’t. You are not supposed to teach your child, if they have a problem they can ask their teacher and get the specified information they need. Revision is going over what they have already learnt and as long as you provide a calm home environment for them to do this, you are doing great.
Putting Pressure on your child
If you are worried you are putting to much pressure on your child, then take a step back and evaluate how you would want to feel in their position. As a parent you want to make your child feel confident and prepared for their exam and the best way to do this is show your confidence in their ability. My parents used to always say to me “as long as you have tried your best, that’s the best you can do” which is the perfect ratio of inspiring them to do well for themselves, but not adding pressure from you.
Exams are a horrible time for everyone, but they don’t last forever, so relax and follow our exam de-stressing tips.
Good luck everyone